How the hell do I do that?. This is something we do innately, some of us are just more sensitive or receptive to the communication . When we think of a muscle knot or bruise, they aren't the most palatable of reminders, but they send direct messages that our bodies require attention. The muscle knot sends us discomfort and the bruise shows us. Building dialogue with the body is being sympathetic and responsive to the messages, so that we fulfill the needs of our bodies.
Talking with our bodies is integral to any self-love practice. When we talk with our bodies we activate the ability to identify habits that sustain our energy levels, receiving rest and pleasure as the nourishment they are. Like all sensations that appear in the body, pleasure and the desire for sensation are important to maintaining positive connections with our bodies. When return care to our bodies, we recognize the perishable nature of them and our bodies thank us for engaging in their replenishment.
How do we talk to our bodies?
Thank them. Verbally or quietly tell them, "thank you". Tell your heart that you are thankful that it keeps pumping for you. Tell your ribcage, "I love you, thank you for embracing me." When we speak to your bodies with love, we are telling them that love is a requirement for access to them, that they are valuable and not forgotten. We often externalize gratitude to the things we possess, forgetting that our bodies are our only true homes.
Self-massage as a frequent practice. When we know our bodies, we can better recognize when something changes. We can also address those changes before our health is affected. Self-massage is relaxing, it can promote bonding and acceptance, and its glorious. When we take on the responsibility of self-massage we are reclaiming our bodies and repurposing the intention of massage as a way to learn from our bodies.
Movement. When we move, and aren't necessarily creating a dance. Movement not in an aesthetic sense, but a scientific approach. Assess and experiment with small movements. Watch for physical and sensory responses to the movements. Experiencing our senses as we move. Exploring the range of motion in our bodies is a practical way to access the body.
Ask them what they need. Especially during a busy, mid day at work, or in the middle of meeting. We can do that! Our bodies are not meant for some of these poorly shape chairs. Our bodies deserve hydration. As a simple grounding practice during the day, ask the body, "what do you need right now?' And the answer will come.
Stretching. Having a consistent stretch routine helps us regulate mood and pain. Stretching also gives a pain, however, that's subjective! Having more elastic bodies is extremely beneficial to our aging process, but also to our abilities to listen to sensations in our bodies. It helps us distinguish sensation, and isolating the life hindering ones from life nourishing ones.
Talk with your body! It's a process. It's a relationship. It can not be forced, but it must be nurtured.